17 Characteristics of Strong Minded People…Good advice for us all…

Refill Your Tank on January 8, 2015

You’re Invited!          

Refill Your Tank and Get Fired Up!
Thursday Speaking Event – January 8, 2015
at the White Rock Filter Building
Time: 7:00 – 8:00pm (doors open at 6:30pm)
Seats are limited – RSVP to reserve your seat.Are you feeling overwhelmed? lost? disconnected?
Do you need somebody to help pick you up, dust your pants off and throw you back in the game?
Join us as Brett Stalcup inspires and motivates us to take an honest look at ourselves and our lives. This is a chance to learn how to refill our tanks for the new year and become champions and life changers!

This talk is for you.  It’s an opportunity to network, meet new people and

Seating is limited – RSVP to reserve your seat.
Light refreshments will be served.



A relationship is simply a one-on-one human connection. At its very core it involves sharing of hearts and minds. A good one can transform your life, but a bad one can destroy it – if you allow it to. A relationship is directly proportional to the amount of energy each person exerts and it must be 50/50 to be a healthy relationship. It cannot be 49/51 – or there will be problems. It is possible to maintain a healthy relationship without yelling at one another. Relationships should be win/win and not win/lose. Eventually win/lose will lead to lose/lose results over a matter of time. Healthy relationships are born from win/win choices. You surround yourself with either givers or takers. Givers want to help you by creating win/win scenarios. Takers only want win/lose from you. They are known for “sucking the life out of you.” When you’re making any kind of decision in your life, don’t forget that it’s important to build relationships with people who will help you win.

Journal Prompt:
Reflect on who you are and be honest. Are you a giver or a taker? Evaluate your relationships. Who are the givers and takers?


In light of tomorrow’s day of thanksgiving, honor and celebration – I offer below, the things I am most grateful for. And while hardship and sadness can strike at any point (we still haven’t found Poppi), I have so much to be truly thankful for and daily reflect on the blessings and grace God has given me.

I am grateful for having my arms, legs, ears and limbs. I am grateful for my faith, family and friends. I am grateful for the beautiful people God put in my life to mentor. I am grateful that my wife and I have our health and are fortunate enough to be a part of our children’s lives. I am grateful my kids get to be with their grandparents and get to learn about their heritage. Such a blessing when you peel the onion back.


From the bottom of my heart, Happy Thanksgiving!


Peer Pressure


We cannot condemn our kids for making bad choices if we haven’t prepared them to make good ones. Parents have to be one step ahead of the game in order to interrupt the plans of the enemy on their child’s heart. Guarding your own hear is not easy, and guarding your child’s heart is even harder. We need to teach our kids how to separate from those who continually disrespect their wishes, and to separate from those friends who continually make bad choices. Teach you kids that the enemy is not just someone who looks bad. The enemy can be a friend, and it can be yourself. Our own free will can get us into trouble. Parents ask me: “What’s the key to success in order to keep my kids out of the drug world?” First, I say there are no guarantees, but a good foundation of God, steady trust, and flow of conversation is important. Are you spending time with your kids? Kids live in the world of technology. Their communication skills are ZERO. They live in their head and express themselves via texts, email, and Facebook. They can organize a party of 150 from five different schools in 30 minutes, but we have to teach them to talk to us. This can be done with returning to the major successful historical tool known as the family dinner. Start simple… with Sunday dinner, and a NO SCREENS rule. No tv, no smartphones, put all the technology away. Even though kids say they don’t want to spend time with the family at dinner, they really do. They crave attention, but they just don’t know how to ask for it.

Journal Prompt: Normally we have something for you to journal about, but this week it’s an assignment. Sit with your family and create goals together. Personal goals, financial goals, school goals, and family goals. These can be things like exercising 3x’s a week, planning a yearly vacation, academic goals for your kids.



Winners and champions are dreamers. How many people in today’s society have lost their dreams? Answer: A BUNCH! After you have freed your heart from the past, it is possible for you to enter the dreaming and vision phase of your life plan. Dreaming does not necessarily have to be about having things, it can be about your children’s wedding or a vacation. Winners and champions have VISION. They have the ability to stop and envision the future. It is exciting to be around entrepreneurs who have the ability to envision. It is no surprise that our world relies on entrepreneurs to create jobs when the government cannot. This group of people are fearless. They take risks. They are visionaries. Here’s an example of one of my visions and how it affected my life.

After a bit of soul searching and thinking about what I was passionate about, I discovered what I call “searching for the miracle” in every case that came in my office. I wanted to be part of my clients obtaining freedom rather than being a part of getting them off of criminal charges. Searching for a miracle was especially helpful if my clients were suffering from alcohol, drug, or sex addiction. This is the recovery defense. Once you’ve witnessed the victory via the recovery defense, it is one of the most rewarding feelings you will ever feel. The client is free and healthy and reaps the benefit of his hard work by winning. Winners don’t beat the system. Winners become leaders who give back and make the system better. The recovery defense is an out-of-the-box art form that presents various options to the client, judge, juries, and court system.

Journal Prompt:
What are your dreams? Have you lost your dreams along the way? If so, why? List the things you would like to do. List the places you would like to see. What would you like to look like? What are your emotional dreams? Spiritual dreams? Material dreams?

Keeping the Faith – Part 2

As many of you know by now, our much-adored, pet Chihuahua, Poppi, went missing last week.  Tonight marks the 5th day Poppi has been gone and still no sign of him.  Flyers have been handed out, neighbors have been contacted, we have posted reward signs – no questions asked – offering $1000 for his safe return. But still nothing.  No signs of Poppi.  Here is another blogger’s take on missing their family pet https://www.insidehighered.com/blogs/confessions-community-college-dean/lessons-missing-dog.   I can totally relate to what their family is going through!


In an effort to exhaust all options and possibilities, we even visited Dallas Animal Services, otherwise known as THE POUND.  I had never personally been to the pound because if I had, I don’t know that I could have ever gone back – even to look for Poppi. Fortunately, there is also an online database that houses photos of all dogs that have come to Dallas Animal Services through their Lost and Found program which allows one to maybe avoid an in-person visit to the facility on Westmoreland but still see if their pet is there. I urge you to visit www.petharbor.com if you are missing a beloved pet as this is the least painful way to see all the animals.


Thankfully, the Dallas Animal Services facility itself is actually nice. It is kept clean and the dogs seemed well-cared for.  The people working in the back seemed very kind and some were truly interested in reuniting pets with their owners.  In KEEPING THE FAITH, I searched aisle after aisle, dog after dog, looking for Poppi. So many of the dogs there are obviously strays and a lot of them appeared to be Pit Bulls and Pit Bull mixes – sadly, I am not sure what their fate will be.  But, there are quite a few dogs at the pound that are so OBVIOUSLY people’s pets that one can only imagine how they ended up there. I pray they will make their way home.  One gorgeous dog, in particular, remains imprinted in my mind. It was a beautiful, snow white, Great Pyrenees, http://www.petharbor.com/pet.asp?uaid=DLLS.A864437 who was so desperate to leave with me, that I would have taken him if I could.  But, there are rules at the pound and while I’m not totally sure what they are, I know I couldn’t take a caged dog at that time. My friend that went with me said some dogs actually make it over to the adoption side if they go unclaimed.  I seriously hope the Great Pyrenees will make it to the adoption side if its owners don’t come but I really, really hope his owners come. As a reminder to the Great Pyrenees owner and all missing pet owners out there…Keep the faith – never end the search! Your pet might be out there and if not, there are so many other lost pets who need you.  Visit www.petharbor.com to search for your missing pet.